Saturday, September 22, 2012

Sowing my seed...

2 weeks came quickly for my next plastic surgery appointment! My mom drove me down and had a check-up appointment on Thursday. I still have my last drain in, but we should hopefully be able to take that out soon. I was so thankful to know that my doctor was super pleased with my wound healing! To me, it looked better, but I never know until they see it if it is healing as it should, and it was. Praise God! So, I was able to get expanded on both sides on Thursday. I wasn't sure if I was going to be able to, so that was a blessing. My left breast is tight because it hasn't been expanded since May and with my back muscle pulled forward (underneath my armpit), it is just tender. Not bad at all...more just weird feeling. So, it was a great appointment with my plastic surgeon. He said everything looked great, and I will see him Thursday again. We will expand again on Thursday. So thankful to God for these good plastic surgery appointments, when for some time, we left disappointed at these appointments. I'm learning so much about patient endurance.

Hebrews 10: 36 "Patient endurance is what you need now, so you will continue to do God's will. Then you will receive all that he has promised."

I know I will receive all he has promised. I am going to patiently wait for him to fulfill those promises. I am learning that fire really does refine. Through the fire, through my pain, I am being refined. For that I am grateful. But it has not been fun or easy. The joy of the Lord is my strength.

I have felt so weak and weary lately. Wishing that I would have been given a different seed to sow, but I know that is not my heart. Even the second that I write that down, I want to erase it because I am a different person than I was almost a year ago. God has entrusted me with this seed, and I will sow it as He sees fit.  I am slowly still learning to sow the seed that God has allowed me to have and what that looks like for Josh and I. I want to make Him proud, and I never want to doubt God. I am learning that it's ok to be weak. The Lord has supernaturally been my strength throughout this entire process, and because of that, I rarely ever felt weak, but now...Oh my, yes. I am learning to boast about my weaknesses, just like Paul did. His grace is ALL I need. I am pleading the blood of Jesus over my life. 

2 Corinthians 12:9 "Each time he said, "My grace is all you need. My power works best in weakness." So now I am glad to boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ can work through me."

The enemy has continued to attack me with different "symptoms" and it is scary. VERY scary. I am holding fast to my confession of faith, that he who promised is faithful. He is faithful!!! These symptoms have led to a chest X-ray that I will have either on Wednesday or Thursday when I head to Houston for my expansions. Please pray that these symptoms will go away in the name of Jesus. I cast down all imaginations, and command my body to line up with God's word, but I need you all. I've always known I couldn't do this alone, but I feel like I need you all now more than ever---probably because I feel so weak. Also please pray that this X-ray is completely clear. It is very common that ribs can get broken during breast surgery, so if it shows a broken rib, I will be one happy girl!!! 

"Let us hold tightly without wavering to the hope we affirm, for God can be trusted to keep his promise." Hebrews 10:23

I have no idea of when we will get the results of the X-ray, but it should be pretty quick. I expect great news and BEG for your prayers. 

Don't forget!!!! Race for the cure is THIS Saturday, September 29th. I still have not been able to run because I still have this stinking drain in!! So, not sure how much running I'll be able to do, but I will try my best. The race starts at 8:00a.m., but activities will be going on starting at 6:30a.m.. If you sign up online by Tuesday, you will get a $5 discount. Don't forget to wear your Aly's fight shirt!! http://www.komennecla.org/komen-race-for-the-cure/race-information/

I love you all. Thank you for filling in the gap for me when I am weak and weary. Just as Aaron and Hur had to hold up Moses' hands when he grew tired in order to defeat the Amalekites, I need you to do the same for me. The BEST thing you can do for me is pray. You may want to talk to me, or hug me, or share something with me (which are all needed and wonderful), but the thing I NEED most is prayer. Thank you for praying.

Friday, September 7, 2012

Getting into "normal" and Race for the Cure!

Hey everyone! We just got back last night from Houston and it has been 2 1/2 weeks since my surgery. My doctor's visit with Dr. Villa went well last week and went well yesterday also. I just have one drain left, so that is wonderful, but am of course ready to be drain-free! With this last surgery, I had stitches, and with my first lat-flap surgery, I just had the dissolveable stiches. Dr. Villa explained to us that because my left breast had been radiated, he needed to use the regular stiches because the skin is just simply more difficult. So, I got my stiches out yesterday and a drain removed.

The drain removal really doesn't hurt. It is more just uncomfortable because you can feel something coming out of you, but yesterday it hurt!!! I could give details, but will spare you. As Dr. Villa took the stiches out, one part became open and looked terrible. He didn't seem too concerned about it, but I have to keep it bandaged and put a cream on it twice a day. I know I've already told you, but wound healing can be a problem when dealing with radiated skin, so please pray that this will heal quickly and perfectly. It was great to see Alisha and Dr. Villa once again. Outside of the drive, which really isn't all that bad, I really look forward to my appointments with them just because they are so great.

I won't have to go back to Houston for 2 whole weeks! My next appointment is on the 20th with Dr. Villa to see how that spot is healing up and to possibly start expanding. He gave us the ok to take the last drain out when it was ready. Josh knows how to take it out, so once it is ready, he will be able to remove it like he did with one of my mastectomy drains. I was calculating it out and I have had drains in my body at this point for almost 3 months, counting my mastectomy and past 2 surgeries. Looking forward to a good night's sleep without drains, showers, baths, and not having to safety pin under my clothes! It will be here soon enough. Soon the drains will be a distant memory, but I have 13 little scars to remind me they were there!

This week, I have officially started back to school and work, and it has really been a great week. I was concerned that I might feel overwhelmed, but I have really felt great to be back in the swing of things. I am in my last year of coursework for my PhD, and that is exciting. On my first day back, I had a full day of school, and also gave a presentation to some incoming freshmen. It was a busy day, but a good one. I told Josh that as I was giving my presentation to some of the freshmen, it was the first time I felt normal in front of a group of people in a long time. They couldn't see the 2 drains pinned up under my skirt and my hair is long enough now to look like an actual haircut. To any freshman there, they just went and heard a woman put on a presentation about the counseling center and they thought nothing about me, the way I looked, or the thought that I just was done with cancer treatment. I didn't know one student and it was kind of crazy, because in a way, I have felt like everyone knows what I have been through, and there are SO many who have no idea. I know I am rambling, but my point is that it was nice/surreal/wierd to be in a room of people and them just see me as a woman presenting and nothing more. Overall, it was good to feel normal for a bit.

One thing that is coming up is the Susan G. Komen Race for the Cure. I have run in it the last few years, but of course have never done it as a "survivor." It is on September 29th at Forsythe Park, and I will post more details as it gets sooner. I didn't "officially" set up a team, but I would love if as many of you could come out as possible. There are "teams" that are set up in which people make t-shirts and fundraise, and I just wasn't able to do that this year- maybe next. BUT, I would love if you could make it out, wear your Aly's fight shirt, and we can all get together to take a picture after the race. As it gets closer, I can post more details about where we can meet up and details of the event. I am really excited about it. Ready to get this last drain out so I can start running!!! Here is a link, if you want to look for yourself and sign up. http://www.komennecla.org/

Even though our lives are getting back to "normal", our spirits are still at war. God has blessed us mightily, but we cannot lose sight for a moment that Satan is continuing to try and destroy us. At some point, I will try and describe in words (which I don't even know is possible) what it feels like to be told you have cancer and you might die. That reoccurence risk is high. Risk for no fertility...I remain positive and stand on God's word with everything in me, but I can often feel like I'm walking on eggshells. I can't trust my emotions- they are just that- emotions. I have to trust the truth. My emotions- my gracious!- can change from one second to the next. I can't for even one second (at least at my current state) trust them very much.

"Stay alert! Watch out for your great enemy, the devil. He prowls around like a roaring lion, looking for someone to devour." 1 Peter 5:8

When Josh and I went skiing with our church this past winter, we drove from Denver to Winterpark and I remember looking at the mountains and the word "rock" came in my mind. I remember God speaking to my spirit and saying, "I am your rock. You can depend on me. I never move. I never change. I am your place of safety." I remember just tearing up to myself in the car and thanking God for that small reminder of what I knew to be true... I continue to run to the rock, cling to the rock, hide under the rock.

"The LORD is my rock, my fortress, and my savior; my God is my rock, in whom I find protection. He is my shield, the power that saves me, and my place of safety." Psalm 18:2

I am SO thankful for our great check-ups and a great first week back at school and work. God is so very faithful and he takes delight in me. I know if I could even see a smidgen of how much God loves me and hates to see me hurt, I would be overwhelmed. I am the most blessed woman to have such a loving God who rejoices with me and these last few good visits. Here are some things to be praying for until my next update.

1. That the spot on my left breast will heal wonderfully
2. Any aches or pains will be gone from my body
3. My drain will come out soon:)
4. That the enemy would flee from me and cancer never touch my body again
5. Wisdom, strength, endurance for Josh and I as we get back to "normal"
6. That God would restore my fertility for future babies
7. Peace and rest for Josh and I


I LOVE you all. I can't tell you the comfort I receive in knowing so many of you are praying for me specifically. When I get a text or call or message, or when I just feel peaceful, I know that is a result of your prayers. Thank you from the absolute bottom of my heart. I will update soon:)

Wednesday, August 29, 2012

Update from surgery- a week later

Wow, I can't believe it has been a week since my surgery. Outside of my nausea, the worst part was when they were trying to get my IV in. I know Josh somewhat explained the process, but it was just terrible. No better way to put it. I'm thankful they finally got one started...it was miserable. 8 tries, 3 doctors trying, in the same arm- the tears were being held back for sure! But of course didn't remember anything else from surgery. I do remember being put asleep with the gas because it took so long for the IV and I remember Dr. Villa and Alisha talking to me laying on the operating table, and that was crazy but neat to have remembered it.

It hasn't been a very fun week, but I am hopeful and trusting the worst is behind me. The pain wasn't too bad, but I was more nauseous than last time. My nurses were great once again and it is almost hard for me to remember what all went on those 3 nights in the hospital. It was wonderful to have Josh and my mom there with me...they are the best. It can get lonely in that hospital room, and I was thankful to have them there.

I also had a visitor this week, my good friend Irena, that I met when we were both going through chemo. It was great to talk with her, although she had to be my nurse when she was there. Josh and my mom had left to give me time to visit with Irena and after visiting with her for a while, I started to feel nauseous, and there she was catching my vomit in the bucket, and getting my nurse to put some zofran in my I.V. She was so gracious to help me and acted like it was no problem at all. Irena was violently ill during her chemo, so she said it was nothing to her; however, I know it is completely different taking care of someone else! But it was great to see her.

I also had some visitors during my last surgery, Courtney Berry and her daddy, and Jim and Pam Gray. It was wonderful to see some familiar faces. I am so grateful for those who have sent me cards, emails, texts, flowers, and gifts. And of course the Stanfills again for opening up their home time and time again. Even though we are often 6 hours away, we feel the prayers and love of all of our friends and loved ones.

Alisha and Dr. Villa checked on me each day and they felt like everything was looking well. Please continue to pray that I heal like I need to. They told me that on this side, it will look differently because it has been radiated, and it does look different. I am hoping and praying it is looking like what it is supposed to and that there are no problems or issues.


We are in Houston tonight (Wednesday) and will have my check up appointment tomorrow. By my calculations, I could possibly get all of my drains out tomorrow. That would be amazing!!! I will update you all on everything of course.

The enemy has been trying to attack my mind so much lately, and I ask all of you to continue to pray for me. I must continue to saturate myself in the Lord and His word, because, goodness, Satan will take every, literally every opportunity to whisper horrible things in my mind. I just rebuke him, tell him to take his hands off of me. I'll just say it out loud wherever I am...in my car, in my house, in the shower. Satan, you have not destroyed me, you have not killed me, and you won't destroy me or kill me! God has given me abundant life, and that is what I will have. I know the Lord will fight for me, but I know I have to do my part in seeking and trusting Him. I am secure in Him and knowing He is protecting me.

John 10:10 " The thief comes only to steal, kill, and destroy; I have come that you may have life, and have it to the full."

Psalm 119:105 " Because you are my helper, I sing for joy in the shadow of your wings. I cling to you; your strong right hand holds me securely."

I will update more details later, but wanted to say "hi" because I feel like I have been dead to the world for the past week. Love you all and I am praying for everyone that might be affected by this storm. Oh, and we are so excited that we are going to have a sweet niece in January. Josh's brother, Lee, and his wife, Rachel are having a baby girl, Sullivan Reese!!! We love her with all of our hearts already and are so thankful to God for this precious life. Blessings in the midst of struggles...

Now here is one sad pic of me after my surgery. Nauseous with rags and gloves filled with ice water. So attractive...


Monday, August 27, 2012

Home is good.

Well we have been home a day now and it is much better than being at the hospital. We got in last night around 7pm. Aly had been nauseous all day Saturday but it had not materialized into anything but when we got home all the moving around apparently caught up with Aly.

Aly has not been sleeping too well and so she has been sleeping on the couch, by choice. We were able to get a dose of phenergan from our local drug dealer. 

After going to church this morning we came home and slept all day. We started watching a marathon of Law and Order but as you can see by the picture below, the WE went to an I. 



At some point you all will see pictures but I have so many pictures of Aly sleeping either in the car or in a chair that it is going to make one heck of a video. Needless to say she absolutely loves to look through my phone and see new pictures I take of her while she sleeps.

Inevitably what happens is Aly goes to sleep then Bella sits by the couch until Aly moves. Every time Aly budges Bella gets up, stretches, walks around the coffee table then gets back in her spot.


After I took this picture Bella started snoring while sitting and awake, yes quite a talented dog. All of a sudden I hear, "Bella" in a deep raspy voice (Aly under the blanket). Bella proceeds to lay down and stop snoring.

We will be in town until Wednesday and then head back out to Houston for a post op checkup. 







Friday, August 24, 2012

Ouch- Change of plans

Well apparentlyafter Dr. Villa left our room he had some second thoughts about allowing Aly to leave today. He came back about an hour ago and said that he thought it was better to stay the night and let them watch her and if all is well we can leave in the morning.

Nothing that we know of triggered the change. As I tried to describe last time the part of this that they have to watch so carefully is the blood supply that they bring around with the skin, muscle.

Oh well, we will be home tomorrow. We are looking forward to it.

Aly now has taken a shower which the nurse didn't do this time. Quick Josh thought, I cannot imagine letting people do some of the stuff that you have to let nurses do, you hear commercials about sedated dentistry ( Dr Kevin Finley is our choice) well I would need sedated bathing, changing and many other things.

Which also makes me say, the job nurses do is unreal. The nurses on our floor deal with No one except post-op surgery patients which by default are pretty helpless. Take the most basic things about life and allow a total stranger to do them to you and for you.

If I had to be at a hospital for days at a time this would be my choice, hands down. Now I haven't been too many other places but this is as tollerable as it gets. We have nurses everywhere and we both have 'beds', I would have to say our tough is quite relative.




Surprise surprise--- Aly talked them into coming home today.

The Dr had come in yesterday and mentioned how good everything was going and how happy he was. Well that sparked the idea then maybe we can get out early and of course that is what is happening.

Last night was by far our worst night in the hospital. Not sure if it was pain for Aly or discomfort or just being in a hospital but sleep did not happen.

At about 8 am Dr Villa and Alisha came in and after talking with Aly said they would come back this afternoon but it looked like we would be able to go home today.

Needless to say that would be great.

Hope you have a great day and thanks again for all the prayers and texts.

Thursday, August 23, 2012

Almost 24 hours after surgery.

Aly seems to be doing well to whatever degree you can do well after this. She got up and walked around so they took the 'foley' out, which is actually a catheter. She is sleeping right now from what I remember will continue to be out of it till some time tomorrow. Last month when she had this surgery by the afternoon of the third day use was ready to go home so my assumption is she will be the same this time.

She is on a liquid diet only today and tomorrow will go to food. She needs to one able to hold the food down as part of her ability to be released.

I know she looks forward to getting out of here and in her own bed.

Thank you guys for ll the texts and prayers, we love you and are so thankful for you.